What Moms REALLY Want for Mothers Day
Last year I joked around on my Instagram stories about what moms REALLY wanted for Mother’s Day. I was so surprised how many responses I received in support of what I was saying. As mothers or caretakers we spend all of our time anticipating the needs of others. Using their last bit of energy to make sure everything is in order for everyone else. Often times it almost a stress in itself to try to figure out how to take time our for yourself. There is so much mom guilt that it is very rare we truly enjoy “self-care.” A lot of us feel “bad” taking or asking for a time out. We do not like to place the burden of responsibility on others.
Bottom line we are most likely just mentally exhausted. Having someone put the extra thought and effort, just beat us to it. A day where we can take a break from worrying about how we are going to make it all happen. We love our families, and it is not to say we do not want to spend time with them on Mother’s Day. It is more we just want a break from being the main resource so we can be the laid back fun one haha!
Coffee- Yes, you could hand me a giftcard, that’s nice. However, I can barely leave the house most days. How about having UberEats show up with coffee every Monday for a month. That would be the most luxorious treat I can think of!
Blowout- Everyone knows the messy “mom bun,” it seems cute. However, the story behind it is I am too tired to do my hair. Or I have a hundred other ways I need to use my “free” time. A good blowout can last 3 or so days, so it is the gift that keeps giving. Especially with new moms, this is something I wish we could register for. Having someone else do something for you as well as being able to look in the mirror and see some piece of yourself presentable again does wonders. Want to step it up? Make the appointment for me and tell me I have to leave the house at 10am. Therefore, we can skip the guilt over making an appointment or the stress of finding childcare.
Make and Execute Mother’s Day Plans, AHEAD OF TIME- Talk to my dad, my brother in-law, whomever would be involved in the days activities. Tell me a week prior that you got the ball rolling and the plans are almost solidfied. I don’t even care what they are. Just the fact that I don’t have to coordinate them is amazing!
Meal Plan and Execution Duty for a Day- You answer all requests for drinks and snacks throughout the day. You worry about what will be consumed for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Have your whole day revolve around how people are getting fed. I don’t care how it happens, just make sure dinner is on the table at 5:30pm.
You can tell there is a running theme here, which is eliminate guilt and worry. A lot of moms feel guilty when they coordinate time away from family or not doing something that is for them. Many of us are consumed daily with getting it all done, in-between fulfilling everyone’s needs as asked. We are always planning and juggling, and this is why we are tired. Because our minds never stop working, even when we are supposed to be sleeping. We love our kids, our husbands, extended family, and friends. We want nothing more than to be dependable, reliable, function, and all with a smile on our face. So for Mother’s Day don’t just give me a quick gift ordered off of Amazon, or massage gift card I have to find time to use. Just put my mind at ease for the day and show me you thought about this for more than 5 minutes the night before. Because I certainly spend more than that thinking about everyone else.
And okay, you can give me the massage giftcard, and a handmade card, I really do love those!